It drains energy and takes over. See how psychophage works

A psychophage can be a narcissist, a sociopath, a psychopath, or a manipulator. This is a person with personality disorders that affect his functioning and relationships with his immediate environment. He is often referred to as the “stealer of souls”. Why? What does a relationship with a psychophage look like? Check.

How does a psychophage work?

The psycho-phage is charming and gallant. He can easily win sympathy and favor. He easily recognizes the needs of his “victim” and satisfies them (at the initial stage of acquaintance). Gives a sense of security, actively listens. It makes the person feel very important to him. It becomes the dream of your “second half”. The ideal she had always been waiting for. A real dream come true. He does this in order to make his partner more dependent on him. Once he wins someone’s trust, he begins to show his true colors. What does this mean in practice?

The psychophage does not usually use physical forms of violence. It doesn’t beat. Leaves a lot of psychological scars. It is often said that he takes a part of the soul of his “victim”. It robs her of her self-esteem. This isolates you from acquaintances, friends, and even family members. This creates a kind of cage that gets tighter and tighter over time. As a result, a person can no longer get out of it so easily. He was stuck in a feeling of loneliness and helplessness. He gives up on himself. He does everything to please the “other side”, moreover, he has a feeling that he is still creating problems or exaggerating them. It receives such messages from the outside. The psychophage “feeds” her with them. He manipulates and lies to get his way.

Very often this is called gaslighting. This is a kind of sublime psychological abuse. It involves manipulating facts in such a way as to take control of the “victim’s” perception of reality. For example, a psychophage can tell his “other half” that he did or said something, although such situations never happened. However, the manipulated person believes everything he hears.

The psychophage also often resorts to the so-called projection. He attributes his characteristics and behavior to the “victim”. How exactly does this mechanism work? Imagine that your partner is throwing plates and getting angry at everything for no apparent reason, but when you mention it, he “bounces the ball” and says that you do not control your emotions. You are explosive/explosive and hysterical/hysterical.

How to get out of the hands of a psychophagus?

Breaking the cycle of violence is usually not easy, especially if it has been going on for some time. The longer a relationship with a psychophage lasts, the more difficult it is to end it. Even if the victim leaves his tormentor, very often he returns to him after some time. Why? Because the manipulator does not give up so quickly. He does everything to regain control over his partner. Such knitting is called a vacuum cleaner (in free translation, this term means “sucking”).

To get out of the hands of a psychophage, you will have to cut off all contact with him. Do not write. Do not call. Don’t reply to messages. Psychotherapy can help you go through this process and regain control of your own life.

Source: Psychocentral.com, WPROST