“Professor Lew-Starovich claims that the list of women’s expectations of men is longer than the Litany of the Holy Mother of the Rosary,” Christina Romanowska says in Frankly. The journalist, co-author of the best-selling series, an interview with the most famous Polish sexologist, spoke in a podcast about whether their latest book, titled What a Woman Wants, leaves the reader with concrete answers.
In numerous letters, you ask me what the book What a Woman Wants is about. Here’s the answer: Well, she wants both Herbert’s poetry (insert your favorite poet here) and sex, in the order and intensity she likes. It is known that a man should have guessed, because nature equipped him with a detector of female desires, but no … wait … Starovich.
In the “Wprost Against” podcast, the journalist and best-selling author referred in particular to the issue of the “detector”.
- I just wanted to assure you that you don’t have this detector. Your socialization process should be that you find the detector, and the sooner the better. But that doesn’t mean everything works for all women. If a man, as is colloquially known, “knows how to deal with women”, women love him, but do not take him seriously, they immediately brand him a “toy”, he knows what to do with women, but this is superficial. But the real man we want is the one who guesses our desires, she admitted.
However, as she noted, “it is a complex process.” - In the book, the professor says that no one teaches men that the desires and moods of women are very changeable. Biologically, we can say that this is due to the menstrual cycle, hormones, etc. But I have the impression that men today are brought up as if women are just like them. And when a man starts a relationship, it suddenly turns out that the woman is not his girlfriend, but a character from another planet. The question is, why didn’t anyone tell them about this before? - added the guest “Quite the opposite.”
She also noted:
- Women’s desires must be expressed. Men do not guess and we wander through the convolutions of understatement in our relationships.
Should sexual needs be a topic of conversation at the very beginning of a relationship? - You must communicate them from the very beginning of the relationship, although not in a simple and unnatural way. During the first six months of a relationship, a man should know what a woman’s sexual needs are and what she likes. If we do not report this from the very beginning of the relationship, after 10 years we have a couple in a psychotherapy office, and the woman admits to her partner that she has never experienced an orgasm with him, Romanovskaya added.
In the Vice Versa podcast, the co-author of What a Woman Wants also talked about the needs of ladies 50+ who are happy being alone - finding younger lovers. And also about whether the emancipation of women influenced the crisis of masculinity and how Zbigniew Liu-Starowicz’s approach to feminism has changed over the years.
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